5 Steps to Motivate Yourself
So there you are, sitting on the sofa wolfing down a pint of ice cream and binge-watching on Netflix. You signed up for your pageant, were excited for a few weeks, but now you’re just not feeling it. You know you should do something, but you just can’t get motivated. After the excitement’s worn off, it can sometimes be challenging to motivate yourself to work toward you pageant goals. When you’re feeling a little flat, just use these 5 Steps to Motivate Yourself. You can do it!
1. Adjust the Bar.
You’ve probably set the bar pretty high for your next pageant competition. After all, you want to be at your very best, right? But pushing yourself to be absolutely perfect in every way is an unrealistic expectation that can lead to frustration, and suddenly you’re just not motivated to work on your pageant skills.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your own expectations, it might be time to adjust the bar. Instead of focusing on a goal that is difficult to achieve, identify a goal that you think will be relatively easy to achieve. And then as soon as you hit that mark, set another goal that’s slightly beyond the goal you just achieved.
Setting a series of smaller goals that lead to a bigger goal is called incremental goal setting. It reminds me of that childhood saying, “Yard by yard, life is hard. Inch by inch, it’s a cinch.”
By chunking down your overall goal to smaller, achievable action steps, you’ll have goals that are easier to achieve. And as you tackle those smaller goals and build a track record of achievement your motivation and self-confidence will return.
2. Make the Goal the Action, Not the Outcome.
When you’re feeling down, it’s often a good idea to switch from focusing on the outcome to focusing on specific actions that lead to that outcome. What does that mean? Instead of focusing on your goal of winning, focus on the actions it will take to win. Don’t pick a goal of winning, make a goal to work on your fitness level 5 times a week, work on your interview three times per week, and practice walking and posing twice a week.
After all, your ability to win is based on top scores across all areas of competition. By switching your focus from winning to skill development, you actually increase your chances of winning.
So, stop focusing on the crown and focus on the skills necessary to capture the crown.
3. Take One Small Action.
Sometimes adjusting the bar and focusing on actions just isn’t going to do it. You’re in a complete stall and just can’t get excited about anything. Period.
That’s okay. Give yourself permission to start with just one small action. It might be one small action each day or maybe one small action per week. Any progress toward polishing your pageant skills is progress.
It’s okay not to be Patty Perfect who’s Perfectly Positive every day. But it’s not okay to let that feeling bring you to a grinding halt. Identify one small action that you think you could complete, plan when you’re going to take that action, get the tools/resources you need to take that action, and then move forward.
If you keep moving, you will motivate yourself and re-engage with your pageant dreams.
4. Get Yourself an Expert.
Sometimes we get discouraged because we’re not sure exactly what we should be doing. You feel paralyzed, can’t make a decision, and don’t move forward. If that’s the case, find someone who knows more about the area you want to improve than you do. Find a coach, buy a book, research the Internet, get an instructional CD, or ask a friend.
If something just isn’t coming together for you, don’t waste your precious time and energy spinning around in circles. Find someone who can teach you how to do it. A good coach can teach you the necessary skills and give you that little nudge that you desperately need.
5. Celebrate Your Progress.
When you’re feeling down, there’s nothing more important than recognizing and celebrating small victories. Keep a journal and write down what you’re doing and how it’s contributing toward your goals. Working on your fitness level? Take before, during and after pics, so you have a visual record of your progress. Working on your interview? Keep a list of questions that you’ve got a great answer for and watch that list grow over time.
Celebrating your successes, large and small, will remind you that you’re moving forward and you’ll be able to break the cycle of feeling unmotivated.
And remember, many fabulous titleholders have won their biggest titles after feeling discouraged, frustrated, or depressed. They used these same steps to refocus, get back on track, and capture the crown. You can too!